Fighting The Lies of Porn

I want to start this post by saying that I have never prayed over a blogpost more than this one. The words I say are not words of condemnation, but rather words of conviction. Over the past few months I have heard stories from people I have never met and from people I love dearly that either struggle with or have suffered from the effects of another’s addiction to porn, and now I have felt pushed to write about it publicly.

Porn is a dirty liar. Porn entices you by saying “You deserve this. Treat yourself to this. This is easier and more accessible than a real relationship. I find you beautiful. I will take you as you are. I will make you happy. Take a break from your anxiety, depression, and loneliness and spend the night with me.” But these literal tempters and temptresses leave you more lonely and alone than you were.

But there is another voice calling for your attention, and that voice’s name is Grace.

Porn obsesses. Grace calms.
Porn worries. Grace comforts.
Porn confuses. Grace enlightens.
Porn pushes. Grace leads.
Porn lusts. Grace loves.
Porn frightens. Grace reassures.
Porn rushes. Grace stills.
Porn empties. Grace satisfies.

Porn isn’t the only voice calling out with these lies. Pride, laziness, greed, hatred, selfishness, and lust manifest in far more outlets and in far more ways than found in porn. But even though there are so many temptations, following this One Voice of Grace is the true way to satisfy us.

“You may think that the situation is hopeless, but God give us more grace when we turn away from our own interests. So submit yourselves to the one true God and fight against the devil and his schemes. Come close to the one true God, and he will draw close to you.” (James 4:6-7 [The Voice Translation])

I encourage you to turn away from your own interests, be it porn or anything else, and accept this invitation Grace daily extends our way. I promise you that Christ’s grace is more satisfying and fulfilling than anything else you could ever come across.

I am fighting for you. I am fighting for my younger brother and sister. I am fighting for my boyfriend. I am fighting for my friends. I am fighting for my pastors, elders, deacons, professors, and mentors. I am in this fight, and I am fighting for Love. It is my prayer that we all release these chains that Christ has broken and step into a life of Grace.

It’s not just a fight against porn. It’s a fight for Grace. Lord Jesus, Your Kingdom come; Your will be done.

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Thoughts From the Road

I’m pretty lucky. I’ve been a lot of places, and I’m just barely twenty. I’ve seen different cities, states, and countries, and with each place I go, I learn that people have so much culture. Language, fashion, food, music . . . it all varies from place to place. This summer I’ve been learning to appreciate it. I’ve traveled thousands of miles to Sioux Falls, Colorado, California, Tennessee, and the Netherlands, and each one is incredibly different from the other.

I’m learning that if you can choose between Starbucks and a hole-in-the-wall coffee shop, pick the unknown place every time. If you’re standing in line at a restaurant you’ve never been to, ask the locals “If you knew you were never coming here again, what would you order?” I’m learning that sometimes you need to get on a plane and go to that place you’re dying to visit; whether it’s to see loved ones or just to get out and have a new experience, buy the dang tickets. Turn off your wifi and cellular when you go out, or better yet just leave your phone at home, and see how it changes the way you interact with the people you’re with. When people recommend books to you, actually read them; make notes of what you learned and thank the person who recommended it to you.

Ask people for their stories. Each person has so much to offer, but often times we just don’t talk about it. Get to know people. Learn about their awkward date to junior prom, what their favorite song is, and how they take their coffee. Play hackey sack with strangers. Eat doughnuts at midnight with your close friends. Wake up early and watch the sunrise; stay up late and learn the constellations.

Most importantly, I can respectfully tell you not to think of yourselves as being more important than you are. Avoid thinking you are better than others or wiser than the rest. Never think that you can’t learn something from someone. Each one of us is joined with one another, and we become together what we could not be alone. Love others well, and don’t hide behind a mask; love authentically. Being your true, vulnerable self and letting others be their true, vulnerable self, is the true definition of love. (Quotes from Romans 12 [The Voice Translation])

Life is beautiful, and there is so much more to the world than our own tiny perception of it. You walk past of hundreds of living stories every day; imagine what life would look like if you learned them.

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